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Anonymous asked: so have you ever made a meaningful & measurable impact on our society?
Is this the part where I’m meant to say no, I haven’t changed government policy, or cured a disease, or housed the homeless? Is this the part where I’m meant to say no, I sit on a computer every day making angry posts on the internet and don’t contribute at all to society?
Or is this the part where I ask you what you consider a ‘meaningful and measurable impact’ is? People seem to question those who advocate for change in order to make them justify their stance. Actions speak louder than words, right?
But words are also powerful. Laws are words that create action. Wars have been started on words. On beliefs. On the individual. A single person cannot change the world. But a single person can change those around them, which can have a ripple effect.
So you tell me, what is meaningful and measurable. Is the individual only worth something if they are in a crowd? Is the single person only a part of a greater statistic? Is the one really only a part of a whole?
I changed myself. I was ignorant, and racist, and sexist in a lot of ways. I had a lot of internalised racism and misogny. I have educated myself. Taken some hard bumps. I’ve talked to people who were homophobic to try and understand how they felt. I’ve listened to people who are a part of a minority to prevent myself from hurting them further. I speak, and I listen, and I hear.
I’ve taken part in charities, signed petitions, raised money, cut and dyed my hair, protested, and shouted. I’ve sat down and had quiet conversations. Asked questions that people couldn’t answer. Had the same asked of me.
I’ve bought water for the homeless people in the city on a hot day. Bought Christmas presents, wrapped them, and placed them under a community tree for children in the foster system. I’ve happily donated money to friends who needed it, and strangers who needed it more. Is that what you want? Does that pass muster to be able to say the things I say, and believe the things I believe? Do I have permission now?
An individual is where power lies. A hundred, a million. A citizen or a Prime Minister. I might not be able to change my country, but I can change the people around me. I can help, I can educate, I can refuse to allow ignorance to exist unhindered, or bigotry to occur without objecting. I hold myself accountable. I hold others accountable.
I don’t know what you think ‘meaningful and measurable’ is. But I think that every single person, every single change, is meaningful and measurable. Don’t you?
Watching this (and fearing broken ankles with each loop) I can’t helping thinking about that old quote Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, except backwards and in high heels.
But no, if you watch closely you’ll see she doesn’t even step on the last chair. That means she had to trust that fucker to lift her gently to the ground while he was spinning down onto that chair. That takes major guts. I’d be pissing myself and fearing a broken neck if I were in her place. Kudos to her.
a round of applause for fred astaire’s upper body strength to keep her in the air and for ginger rogers’s guts because holy crap
she had to trust that fucker
…and as I like to remind everyone…BACKWARDS AND IN HEELS!
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Think about the first name you were ever called,
and then think how long it took until
you got called a pussy
or a slut,
or a bitch,
or a whore,
all of which are words that fall too close to ‘girl.’
Think about the first time you got called a ‘girl’
and they said it with a sneer.
Like it was a bad thing.
For a boy, it is the lowest degradation to get called a girl.
For a girl, it is the lowest degradation to get called a girl.
Remember, black widow spiders and female praying mantises eat their partners after intercourse.
Remember, it’s the lionesses who hunt.
They come back with bloody muzzles, dragging bloated carcasses as the alpha lion strides around with his mane puffing out.
Remember, it’s only the female mosquitoes who drink blood.
We’re the ones who do the necessary work, dirty our hands,
fuck or fight or both.
We’re often the smaller sex, which makes us a harder target
as we slink close and sink our teeth in.
Remember: we’re deadly.
You should be proud to be called a girl. — 'Most Female Killers use Poison,' theappleppielifestyle (via r-lupins)
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I received a weird email notification from paypal today saying that I had gotten a refund for a pair of headphones I did not buy. There was an eBay reference number.
The email was actually from paypal. I hovered over the paypal URLs and they looked correct. I still did NOT click on any of the links because I knew something was wrong and I am a little paranoid. I closed out my browser (again because I am paranoid) and reopened and logged into paypal. There was actually a refund issued to my account that was not due me. I did some Googling. The company and email didn’t match up. The eBay link hovered over a phone number in New Orleans. The email was for a CFO of a tech company in CA. I logged in to eBay to make sure no one had used my account. They hadn’t.
I forwarded the email to spoof at paypal and they confirmed it is some kind of complicated phishing email. So if you get an unexplained refund to your paypal account. Email paypal. Do not click on links. Do not contact the refunder. Do not try to use the money. I don’t know exactly what would happen, but there’s no such thing as a free lunch.