so have you ever made a meaningful & measurable impact on our society?
Is this the part where I’m meant to say no, I haven’t changed government policy, or cured a disease, or housed the homeless? Is this the part where I’m meant to say no, I sit on a computer every day making angry posts on the internet and don’t contribute at all to society?
Or is this the part where I ask you what you consider a ‘meaningful and measurable impact’ is? People seem to question those who advocate for change in order to make them justify their stance. Actions speak louder than words, right?
But words are also powerful. Laws are words that create action. Wars have been started on words. On beliefs. On the individual. A single person cannot change the world. But a single person can change those around them, which can have a ripple effect.
So you tell me, what is meaningful and measurable. Is the individual only worth something if they are in a crowd? Is the single person only a part of a greater statistic? Is the one really only a part of a whole?
I changed myself. I was ignorant, and racist, and sexist in a lot of ways. I had a lot of internalised racism and misogny. I have educated myself. Taken some hard bumps. I’ve talked to people who were homophobic to try and understand how they felt. I’ve listened to people who are a part of a minority to prevent myself from hurting them further. I speak, and I listen, and I hear.
I’ve taken part in charities, signed petitions, raised money, cut and dyed my hair, protested, and shouted. I’ve sat down and had quiet conversations. Asked questions that people couldn’t answer. Had the same asked of me.
I’ve bought water for the homeless people in the city on a hot day. Bought Christmas presents, wrapped them, and placed them under a community tree for children in the foster system. I’ve happily donated money to friends who needed it, and strangers who needed it more. Is that what you want? Does that pass muster to be able to say the things I say, and believe the things I believe? Do I have permission now?
An individual is where power lies. A hundred, a million. A citizen or a Prime Minister. I might not be able to change my country, but I can change the people around me. I can help, I can educate, I can refuse to allow ignorance to exist unhindered, or bigotry to occur without objecting. I hold myself accountable. I hold others accountable.
I don’t know what you think ‘meaningful and measurable’ is. But I think that every single person, every single change, is meaningful and measurable. Don’t you?
Think about the first name you were ever called,
and then think how long it took until
you got called a pussy
or a slut,
or a bitch,
or a whore,
all of which are words that fall too close to ‘girl.’
Think about the first time you got called a ‘girl’
and they said it with a sneer.
Like it was a bad thing.
For a boy, it is the lowest degradation to get called a girl.
For a girl, it is the lowest degradation to get called a girl.
Remember, black widow spiders and female praying mantises eat their partners after intercourse.
Remember, it’s the lionesses who hunt.
They come back with bloody muzzles, dragging bloated carcasses as the alpha lion strides around with his mane puffing out.
Remember, it’s only the female mosquitoes who drink blood.
We’re the ones who do the necessary work, dirty our hands,
fuck or fight or both.
We’re often the smaller sex, which makes us a harder target
as we slink close and sink our teeth in.
Remember: we’re deadly.
You should be proud to be called a girl.
”—'Most Female Killers use Poison,' theappleppielifestyle (via r-lupins)
I received a weird email notification from paypal today saying that I had gotten a refund for a pair of headphones I did not buy. There was an eBay reference number.
The email was actually from paypal. I hovered over the paypal URLs and they looked correct. I still did NOT click on any of the links because I knew something was wrong and I am a little paranoid. I closed out my browser (again because I am paranoid) and reopened and logged into paypal. There was actually a refund issued to my account that was not due me. I did some Googling. The company and email didn’t match up. The eBay link hovered over a phone number in New Orleans. The email was for a CFO of a tech company in CA. I logged in to eBay to make sure no one had used my account. They hadn’t.
I forwarded the email to spoof at paypal and they confirmed it is some kind of complicated phishing email. So if you get an unexplained refund to your paypal account. Email paypal. Do not click on links. Do not contact the refunder. Do not try to use the money. I don’t know exactly what would happen, but there’s no such thing as a free lunch.
Things were so much simpler before women started stealing all of my favorite things from me. I don’t care what anyone says. Women aren’t and will never be true fans of Doctor Who, Star Trek or any of that. You jumped in because you wanted attention. You became “fans” because suddenly liking sci-fi shows and fantasy became popular. You only want guys to drool over you because you’re girls who “like” geeky stuff. Kindly go jump in a lake and die.
A woman organized the letter-writing campaign to NBC to save Star Trek when it was on the verge of being cancelled after the first season, and thus enabled the show to continue on for three seasons allowing it to go into syndication and gain the following it did in reruns.
A woman organized the first ever Star Trek convention, and convinced NASA to donate a truckload full of stuff for said convention thus starting the tradition of Star Trek conventions featuring space for modern science.
A woman greenlit Star Trek while acting at the head of a major studio, and consistently fought pressure to cancel the show. This same woman was the person who greenlit Mission Impossible and was the first woman to head a major studio.
A woman wrote many of the most famous TOS episodes, and went on to write on to write episodes of The Animated Series, The Next Generation, and Deep Space Nine.
Learn your history.
You think women stole your favorite things? If it weren’t for women, those things wouldn’t even exist, but you probably don’t even know the names of the women who made that possible.
So much for “infinite diversity in infinite combinations”…
Who is the fake now?
i’m just laughing so hard right now bc it’s hitting me that there are geek guys who think that women would actually pretend to like this stuff to cater to guys. like it never really occurred to me the depths of how absolutely fucking stupid that idea is. ”we appear to have common interests but you still don’t like me so that must mean we don’t actually have common interests and you are not a real fan”. oh my god i just can’t right now. i want to feel offended by the fact that there is an idiot out there trying to tell me what i can and cannot like but i’m just too busy laughing.
Also, a lot of the current fandom terminology we take for granted originated in the Star Trek fandom, specifically Star Trek fanfic. And who were the major driving force behind Star Trek fanfic? Women.
Earliest spec fic texts in the English-speaking Western world were written by Thomas More (Utopia), Lady Margaret Cavendish (the Blazing World), and Mary Shelley (Frankenstein). Note that there are two women among those names.
I am so sick of these Fake Geek Guys who don’t even understand the history of the fandom they claim to want to protect.
And let’s not forget Doctor Who. A woman named Verity Lambert was a founding producer of the show at the BBC and she was key to it’s early success according to everyone who worked on or around it. We wouldn’t have Doctor Who if not for Verity.
Ughh, fake geek guys!
Star Trek Lives! "Star Trek Lives! is a reference book published in 1975. The book analyzes aspects of the Original Series, and discusses the fandom that developed as a result of the show."
Written by Jacqueline Lichtenberg, Sandra Marshak and Joan Winston.
First book to analyze Trek fandom was written by two authors (Lichtenberg created the Sime/Gen series and Marshak was co-author on licensed Trek fiction) and a member of The Committe, who organized one of the first Trek conventions (Winston).
I’ll just leave this right here.
Best part: If you go back the OP, it’s been deleted. Somebody gone blown up by a truth bomb.
Every time I see/hear something like the original post, I am baffled. I started watching Doctor Who on PBS and Star Trek in syndication when I was about six. (I don’t really remember a time when I didn’t, to be honest, but my parents had some restrictions when I was really little.) TNG started airing when I was seven. There is no way I would have watched hours and hours of sci-fi at that age if I didn’t enjoy it, and I certainly wasn’t doing it to fool grown men into paying attention to me. That’s gross.
When I went all gaga over seaQuest and Highlander and the animated X-Men series (etc., etc.) in junior high, it didn’t win me points with any guys other than the ones who were already my fellow sci-fi geeks. The person who convinced me to watch SG-1? A woman. The group who pulled me into BtVS fandom? Mostly women. The people I most ardently geek out about sci-fi with now? About half and half. (Just like the human population, oh my gosh!)
Let’s face it, guys like the OP are just upset because women he finds attractive have started publicly expressing their enjoyment of genre entertainment, and he can no longer use the stigma of fannishness as a reason for their rejection. To paraphrase The Social Network, they’re not getting rejected because they’re geeks, it’s because they’re assholes.
We haven’t “stolen” anything from you, buddy. Fandom is big enough for everyone, and we’ve always been here, whether you like it or not.